Hello there,

How you doing and how is your christain journey moving? (You can answer me in the comments section, or on any of my social media. I would really love to relate with you my dear reader on a deeper level,thank you).

As usual I’ve noticed something, learnt about it, seen it in biblical light, and now wanna share that with you. It’s revolving round this self love trend, love yourself, me first thing that is everywhere now. I got bothered and when I get bothered, I take such thoughts into consideration in biblical light so I can understand better. When I understand better, I want people to understand too and that leads me here, right here to write. So kindly follow me meticulously and let’s wrap our head around this thought.

These days guys, I see and hear a lot of self love preaching, me first, my mental health, my happiness first, me, my, mine, myself….talks on the internet and to my face. There’s a lot of self first in everything and it doesn’t seem wrong because if you are not okay you can’t take care of others, true. Jesus said we should love others as ourselveeesss, also true. But, but, but there is a BALANCE. A balance between loving yourself and loving others and a tip towards either side is not healthy .

The second command is like the first; love your neighbor the same as you love yourself. Matthew22:39(ESV)

In this Scripture Jesus Christ placed love for others and love for ourselves on a balance scale and it’s a command. Therefore, balance must be maintained to ensure complete obedience of the command. More often than not the scale tips towards loving ourselves and we disrupt the balance.

How do we disrupt this balance?

We do this when we place so much…not even so much, just emphasis on loving ourselves. The moment you start emphasizing on loving your self… You tip the balance towards selfishness. Why do I say this? (cause sometimes you have to pay attention to yourself and take care of you). I say this because naturally we already love ourselves, as humans we already have this basic underlying love for ourselves. Amazingly even those we know that have inferiority complex or ‘dislike’ themselves have this underlying love for themselves. It is this love that makes them unhappy that they are not what they think they should be and this dislike or inferiority complex stems from this self love of liking themselves and wishing, wanting better for themselves. As opposed to the natural love we have for ourselves we do not naturally love others. It takes God’s spirit and conscious effort to actually love others. So the moment you decide to now place extra emphasis on loving your self the scale is gonna tip towards you and selfishness is not gonna be far. Jesus placed something as important as the love for others(which is a prove of our love for God 1John4:12) on the same scale with love for ourselves because He knows that the love for yourself /ourselves is sure.

How then do we maintain this balance ?

Yup, yup it’s a valid question ei…. How then I’m I supposed to maintain this balance without hurting myself at the expense of others and at the same time love others without hurting myself?

  1. Put God first
  2. Put yourself last.
  3. Wisdom

God first.

It’s no cliché dear, it’s the order of life. God was before all things(Colossians1:17). Naturally He is first there’s no deep thinking to it. Then it becomes a different thing for you to recognize Him as first in you life. If not for how far we have strayed He, Christ, is actually our life;

Colossians 3:4a When Christ, who is your life…..

He shouldn’t be struggling for first place in our lives for someone who is our life. So, we need to take the conscious effort to recognize Him as first in our lives not ourselves and not others. This is important because GOD IS THE BALANCE, OUR BALANCE. When God is first everything else falls into balance; the love for ourselves, the love for others, love for things, etc. Everything takes it’s rightful place because what should be first is first.

If the center is intact there can be no disarray .

God teaches us to handle ourselves and to handle others, oh yeah! He made us all. He knows best.

Yourself Last

Hehehehe before you swallow me, hear me out. Remember that the way of the kingdom is opposite to the way of the world. It is clearly stated in the Scripture that;

Mark 9:35 And he sat down, and called the twelve, and saith unto them, If any man desire to be first, the same shall be last of all, and servant of all.(KJV)

Luke9:48b For he who is least among you all–he is the greatest.(NIV)

But this is no underlying avenue for you to be ‘last’ just because you want to be first, No! That’ll be false humility(Colossians 2:17). Your last should be your last, a state of complete humility, without vain conceit, considering others better than yourself(Philippians 2:3-5) Yes! Bro Paul said it, it is not inferiority complex it’s the way of love and maintaining the balance Christ has set. Lol, Apostle Paul even said we should please our neighbors (Rom15:2-3), so I wonder where we get this self first and me and mine only sermons from. See how many Scriptures we can see about loving others, the Bible does not in anyway emphasize self priority but self sacrifice. This just shows how much we need not emphasize self love as it would only lead to glorifying the flesh, something Jesus Christ had to die to get rid of.


Wisdom is profitable to the wise (Ecc10:10)and in all your getting get wisdom(Prov.4:7). We need wisdom and discernment in maintaining this balance. I assure you people are gonna wanna take advantage of you, they’d want to take you for granted and abuse you. Here is where discernment and the wisdom that God gives come to play. You know when to say enough, you know when to step back and when to endure. You know when to claim your rights and when to let it slide. The fact that you stay away from some certain people don’t mean you don’t love them no more(love covers a multitude of wrongs(1Peter4:8). It is just wisdom to keep your distance from certain situations and people. If you have the spirit of God in you then walk by the spirit of God(Gal5:25). The Holy Spirit is a spirit of wisdom and would not lead you into unnecessary harmful situations. Still this does not mean you run away from every hurtful experience with people (Jesus didn’t). You don’t want nobody to step on your toes, you don’t want insults so you hide the truth, you don’t want persecution so you compromise, you don’t want anyone to offend you so you stay harsh and mean, no!

Our calling as Christians is to do what is right and leave the consequences to God.

We do what the Holy Spirit and the Word of God guides us to do(which is to love others) and endure whatever may come out of it without hating anyone because we know it’s for the best.

J. O. Y this is what it means; Jesus first, Yourself last and Others in between. JOY that withstands all storms.

I pray you got my point and that you walk into an experience with God that makes issues like this no longer confusing. May you be more concerned about giving love than receiving it, Amen.

Let love lead! ❤❤

And yeah, don’t forget to talk to me via my email:

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And any of my social media handles displayed above. I really, really want to know how your christain journey is coming along.😊

Yours in Christ,


Parental Practice.

I’m glad that my first post for the year is family inclined, I would have preferred it to have been my last post of last year though. Talking about family during Christmas season would have been nice but some how I left it till now.

I’m not sure you could guess that this would be about siblings especially the older siblings. So if you are a last born, bye! Thank you for coming to my Ted talk. Lol, wait wait wait last borns don’t go yet, I was just joking. You may not have biological younger ones but I believe somewhere around you, there are people younger than you are. Last last this post is for you, and everyone else.

Having younger ones is a gift and a privilege I tell you. I’m not here to tell you about loving your younger ones cause I know you do. I would just like to broaden your scope on what it means to be an older sibling.

1. Your younger siblings low key look up to you. They unconsciously imitate you, and they have this confidence that if you do something then it’s alright if they do it too. I have friends who look up to their elder sisters so much that if there’s any issue on ground and they say “I called my sister and she said this” I for one know that’s what they’ll heed to no matter what, sometimes even against their moms. I’ve noticed my younger siblings coming late for morning devotion because I started going late, and answering my mum after her third call because I started doing that too. When I noticed that, I had to adjust and I saw changes. When such misbehaving continued I had the confidence to tell’em to stop it. Point is you need to be responsible at least for your younger siblings sakes. You have a greater influence on them than you know. Let them know movies don’t always turn out real, tell them your experiences(good and bad), help them through social media and it’s effects. Be more intentional about the development of your siblings in all wise.

2. Your parents at a point expect you to be able to tend to your younger siblings. I heard a pregnant woman saying once that she would like to have a baby girl as her first child so she could grow up and help in taking care of her siblings and her, the mother wouldn’t be so stressed. You can relate especially if you are from an African home, your parents relax in their discipline and keep directing issues about your siblings to you the older one, and you’ll be wondering who the parent is now. Point here is you have to fill in for your parents most times and not let them down.

3. Your younger siblings would be more comfortable with you if you are cool and matured to them. I mentioned having to stamp your foot on the ground when they are going the wrong way, but that shouldn’t turn you to one scary monster that they can’t talk to or laugh with. Most teenagers find it difficult to talk to their parents about stuff because they feel they are old school and won’t understand, but you, young blood senior one should be right there for them to talk to so they don’t go astray. Since you are cool, matured and available. Don’t chase them away or lock your room door. Show them the way.

There are many more things to talk about concerning this older sibling thing but I’ll let you unravel them yourself as you set out to be more intentional about your younger siblings, but don’t be weird.

Ultimately, this is a kinda rehearsal cause you will have children of your own someday, and if you’ve dealt with your siblings properly I bet it would help. Like the Bible says:

Luke 16:10 He that is faithful in that which is least is faithful also in much: and he that is unjust in the least is unjust also in much. 16:12 And if ye have not been faithful in that which is another man’s, who shall give you that which is your own?

If you are faithful with your parents children, God will give you yours and you’d be faithful with them.

They may annoy you…..will annoy you, hold your tongue. Your wardrobe becomes their shopping complex?… Let them. They need money and come to you? Give’em(very important).

Stay cool, matured, parental, and nice!

Your colleague in the older siblings association,

Prudence. 🌹

And yeah, if you are a younger sibling and you still read through, know this :we your older siblings are also gifts and a privilege, you better cherish us. Thanks!


Hello guys,

Yup! I know it’s been a while, a couple of months since I posted last and I apologize to my dear readers. Honestly.. it’s not intentional, just cause whatever I publish must be something I’ve dealt with and come through. So, this particular ‘people driven’ talk took that long a dealing period for me and now I can post it a little confidently. Appreciation to those who kept asking “when is the next post coming up?” Boom! It’s here now, so let’s get to it.

As you go through this post, I hope you will be sincere enough to yourself to carry out a self examination that will reveal just exactly what or who really drives your life.

1 Corinthians 10:31 Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God.

As human beings who are social (let’s take social as simply being amidst people, not too deep) we have the possibility of being driven by them. There’s the self drive too,a very terrible drive,I don’t even know which is worse. This drive could be obvious or not, forced or consented, I mean, it could come in any form, it is a drive.

People driven : one’s basic motive is always based on people.

So, before I do anything the very first question I consider or my mind even unconsciously processes is what will people think, say, or act towards this. If by the slightest chance, it feels like the answer to that question is negative ,then I withdraw. But then, I really want to do this, so, I consider other reasons apart from ‘what will people say’ like ‘I am my own man, I do this for me, I think it is God’s will’. If again by any chance, all these other reasons fail to usurp the negative feeling already imposed -that people will not accept this, then that thing I was supposed to do ends there, irrespective of whether I desire it or God does. Sometimes, after that first basic question (what will people…?) for a people driven me has been answered, this time I have a positive feeling;yeah! people will love this. I go ahead confidently to do it and those other considerations ‘ is it God’s will, is it good, praise worthy, noble, pure or beneficial? ‘ do not matter anymore, after all, people will love it.

“What will people say”has killed more dreams than anything else.

Now, this people drive can be so unknown to us that we are actually doing everything in our lives according to ‘what people will… ‘ and we will not even know it. That is because we are good in justifying our motives as we deem fit. So I’m saying; oh, I do this because I love to, I feel the need to, I’m convinced to, and many other camouflage motives we have. While in actual sense, if we take time to examine our motives, we’ll find out that it’s just because we don’t want people to think we have no talent or we are nothing. So, we try to prove people wrong by doing those things. One way or the other we could be driven by people, people’s reaction tend to determine what we do.

Let me say this and let me say it fast: doing things because of people is not in itself bad. In fact it is good motivation sometimes and the Bible itself is in support, that you consider people in what you do.

Romans 15:2 Let every one of us please his neighbour for his good to edification.

But that drive, the people drive, should not be your primary drive neither should it be your secondary drive. It has it’s place.

Primarily, we should be God driven. God should be our basic motivation for all we do. Everything we do should spring up from him. Questions our mind should be programmed to answer before we do anything should sound like, “will God be pleased, will Jesus do this?” Etc.

Romans 14:7-8 For none of us liveth to himself, and no man dieth to himself. For whether we live, we live unto the Lord; and whether we die, we die unto the Lord: whether we live therefore, or die, we are the Lord’s

Secondarily, we should be purpose driven. There’s a purpose for which we are alive, figure that out and let it drive you. Your secondary drive comes from the primary drive and if your primary drive is still to please God, then the secondary cannot go off course. Weew! Purpose, very important. Let it be a topic for another day.

So, it would be nice for you to humbly sit and honestly ask yourself, “what or who really drives my life?” Consider your most recent indulgences and try to honestly trace the motives behind them. Don’t try to form the motives as you think, your soul is honest enough to tell you the truth. It should be God dear, it should be. Not even the most worthy person or the most worthy course should be your drive. It may have started with pleasing God as your drive but along the way pleasing people took the wheel, do well to let Jesus take the wheel once again. If you keep doing things because of people,very soon you wouldn’t do those things anymore,why? because,people wouldn’t always be there. Lol, maybe you are confident that people are in no way the basic motive behind anything you do, well who am I to tell you otherwise? Just try to examine yourself and see, okay? Good 👍.

In summary, it is okay to have people, and what they will say, think or do in mind before you do things but they should not be your primary drive in life.

Pleasing people or displeasing people is not why you are here. You are here for God, so pleasing Him becomes primary.

Let us be God driven, cause he does not change (unlike people 😏) and Purpose driven, well cause it’s a more worthwhile drive than the people drive.

BOOK RECOMMENDATION: Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren.

And yeah! If you are visiting this blog for the first time, there are other wonderful posts previous to this, you’d love to read. Eg. TRAPPED!

May the Love, Grace and Power of our Lord Jesus Christ be with you and give you light in your inmost being, Amen.

Yours in Christ,




 Fight the good fight of the faith. Take hold of the eternal life to which you were called…(1Timothy6:12)

To the struggling Christian,

I write this to you dear one;you who wants to live for Christ (Romans14:8),who wants to please the Lord,enjoy fellowship and do His bidding.

Yes! We know know the Truth and believe in Him but the life He requires from us we fall short in living it. We are standing today and slipping tomorrow, fellowshipping today and shrinking back from Him tomorrow. Why is this so? For our God is immovable and does not draw back neither does he change. How then can our relationship with this constant God yet be wavering? As much as it troubles you,it wearies my heart and does not please the Father.

Yeah,I think we all know the answers to our wondering. That we, in our ‘prone to wander’ state, time and time again stray from the Father’s courts and fail to return in rapid,genuine repentance. Now, there we lay;in our lowly state,lacking all we know could be ours,wanting sweet fellowship,wishing for something deeper and camouflaging the peace only Him can give. There we are; far from the Father,not able to return, having thoughts that we would slip right back into the same mess and stand and slip and fall again.The inconsistency wearies our souls,so we rather just stay lost and prodigal.

You are never too lost to return!

Beloved, I think it is time to FIGHT! To stand up and fight for your relationship with your Father.We can’t just sit in the mess.The prodigal son fought,Peter fought,Paul fought,yes!all saints fight. Fight!for you want to please Him.Fight whatever sin,doubt,distraction,and even your very flesh. Join Christ in this victory battle for your soul.Nobody is going to do this for you,you just have to stand up from the rise and fall tide (bear the parable of the prodigal son in mind Luke15:11-32) and fight for the stable relationship you so desire.

We may fail in our following Christ,but let us not fail to follow Christ.

The grace for this fight comes only from the Father; for nothing first proceeds from our end, we only love Him because He first loved us (1Jn4:8). But how can we receive this grace to strive if we do not ask? God’s grace for the Christian race is always available but we fail to receive it most times.So,let me say;we still need grace to receive grace.

…you do not have because you do not ask God(James4:2)

Let me shock you: our fighting is in our SURRENDER.You fight the doubt;that won’t let you ask your Father for help,you fight the fear;that you would fall again,you fight the unwillingness;to keep up with His standards, you fight the inconsistency, you fight your flesh, all by surrendering to Jesus -the Champion of our souls.We surrender our inabilities and abilities, our weaknesses and strengths, our doubt,fears,weariness,failings,past,present and future, literally everything to Him.Therein lies our victory.

 Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. James4:7

There’s freedom and victory in surrendering to Jesus!

Our fighting is not in struggling with ourselves or with anything. Our fighting is done as we surrender ourselves to Jesus over and over again. So,you can replace all the ‘fight fight’ I’ve been mentioning with ‘surrender’.Cause in this Christian journey, our fight is always in our surrendering to Jesus.By surrendering to Him we are fighting. Stop struggling dear and surrender!

Let us pray: 

Dear Jesus,we come before you,our heart’s filled with gratitude for you saved our souls and you are with us as we workout our salvation (Philippians 2:12).Yes Jesus, we fall,we stray but time and again you follow us wherever we stray and you help us to return. We are not happy that we keep slipping off the path and most times we stay down and we know it pierces your heart too. So dear Jesus, we surrender ourselves to you, we’ve been doing it our own way.We have tried to stay connected to you with our methods and have failed. This time we choose to fight these failings of ours by surrendering to you and your ways.Help us trust you enough to abandon ourselves in you. Yes Lord, we know you wouldn’t let us go. Our souls belong to you and we want to stand with you against all things that war against our souls. Please help us Jesus,we leave the struggle and we submit today and every other day of our sojourn on earth. Thank you Jesus for you hear us (Isaiah 65:24).In your name we’ve prayed,Amen.

Do NOT give up on your Christian journey, It’s worth the fight!

Let us keep to the Word,prayer and fellowship with the brethren. Ye,we are more than conquerors!

Song recommendation: Oceans by Hillsong.

Book recommendation: BATTLE OF THE MIND by Joyce Meyer

Grace,Strength and Sweet Fellowship!

Yours in Christ,



Heyy you!😊

So,after my last post,trapped,I got to hear from some people and most of it was that they felt trapped by fear,fear of the unknown.Uhmm,if you don’t know what I’m talking about you most likely have not read the previous post, quickly do that right here. So, a remedy to this malady I’ve come to understand from Scripture is what we’ll talk about and that is ; living daily.

Mat 6:34 Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.

Learning to take life a day at a time is one necessary thing, if we are to live above fears and worries. Run through Scriptures and you’d see how God relates with his people day by day. Jesus Christ our ultimate model taught this principle and lived by it. If it wasn’t possible to take life a day at a time, Jesus wouldn’t have told us to do so. Plus He taught us to pray;

Give us our daily bread..Matthew6:11

Now, this is not saying; let us eat and drink for tomorrow we die.Neither does it mean we shouldn’t plan for tomorrow or pray for our future. Rather,we take a day and it’s dealings, face them with the strength and grace God gives us for that day without stressing over what tomorrow holds. We should have plans,hopes and expectations but guess what;we don’t know tomorrow!(James4:13-15).Taking life a day at a time helps us concentrate and save our energy, herein we are more efficient.And our sweet sweet heavenly Father is always there to help us😊.

Psa 68:19 Praise be to the Lord, to God our Savior, who daily bears our burdens. 

We live each day only by the grace of God. When we begin to over think in the name of planning, about how tomorrow(tomorrow that we know nothing about) would go, we can’t help it when we begin to worry and fear and find ourselves trapped in uncertainties, unable to achieve anything either today or even the tomorrow. Living daily is a decision we have to deliberately take daily. Like waking every morning and saying to my self: I’m taking today for today and dear Jesus please be with me every step of the way. I refuse to worry or even think about tomorrow without having your sufficient grace in mind. Let me walk this day with you. Amen!

 Take your plans,hopes,ambitions,and expectations to God in prayer. Place them in His hands and leave them there. They are safer there.@pwudenceblog

So, this is me,sooo worried about a long journey I had the next day.I kept thinking of the stress,discomfort ,hunger and all the negativities of traveling so far away. Mind you, I had not even packed my bags 😂. I thought and thought and worried and saddened till I started feeling weak physically. I slept off thinking I’ll wake up to do all I should have done. We all know that didn’t happen. The next morning, there was so much confusion and rushing and shouting. Found myself on that journey,not prepared, still stressed and uncomfortable all because I had ‘traveled’ on the day of preparation. If only I had focused on the right thing on the right day instead of worrying and over thinking of the wrong thing on the wrong day.

One day at a time dear.Today for today!

In our walk with God also, this applies. For the times I sit and begin to worry if I’d have the strength to go on maybe a 3-day fast, I wouldn’t even make a day. But when I just trust God for each day I receive strength for each day. Stop being afraid of falling or failing and backsliding. Wake up each day and trust God to help you seek him and receive His grace for that day.That’s why we study the Bible daily and pray daily.I prayed yesterday doesn’t mean I shouldn’t today.God will lead you daily and give you your daily bread. Watch how you’ll grow as you walk with God day by day refusing to be afraid if you’d fall tomorrow or not.

I pray you get to understand all these appropriately with no controversy. And as I always recommend, talk to Jesus about it,that fear,that trap and watch Him do what he does so well;save.

Book recommenndation :Living beyond your feelings by Joyce Meyer.

Song recommendation:  Courageous by Casting Crowns.

Sweet fellowship, grace and peace.

Yours lovingly,



Happy new year!!!

Hello my dear reader, I’m so happy to have you here this new year. And I pray this year is gonna be your best year yet. Make this year count, so you don’t just live out 2017 twice. It wouldn’t be nice to start a new year with old (unprofitable) habits. May it be a new year indeed!

Okay now,to the issue before us,well, it’s not for the mouse,it’s for you  or probably somebody you know . I’m gonna be asking a lot of questions,I hope you’d answer sincerely. Alright,here we go!

Are you held down to or in something? You just can’t step out of it. Something you probably didn’t plan to get so tied down to and it just seems to always get the better part of you? You’ve tried fighting your way out, but you are just pinned down,down in  that mess.Trapped?Okay then,follow me,I have a message for you.

How often we fall into the enemy’s traps.Sometimes traps we set for ourselves, walk into it by ourselves and we can’t just find ourselves walking out easily.We build our own prison cells and stay locked in.Here,let me address some.

Are you addicted to drugs and alcohol? Started with a sip or a drag,you didn’t plan to get stuck to it for ‘survival’ did you? Now you can’t go a day without it. Or is it those ‘xxx’ movies? You know it’s wrong, but it keeps pulling you and you can’t say no. Trapped!

And there’s that relationship you know you shouldn’t be in.Started out so innocently, you didn’t plan to get so intimate,but here you are,you’ve been ambushed! It’s all polluted and you can’t step out of it. Every time you try to cut ties,a simple text comes in,and you are back “in love”. Okay,maybe  yours is not yet polluted,but you know deep down you shouldn’t be in that relationship, but you love him/her too much to obey the voice of God. You make excuses cause you see reasons why you should leave, but you can’t, you just can’t walk away. Trapped!

Whatever keeps you from obeying your Maker, entraps you from being all He has made you to be.

This is you;fervent Christian, but somehow you slipped out of the glorious path you once enjoyed. Now you are on this lowly,lukewarm and draggy path, just bearing the name you once lived out.You’re not so bad,you still go to church ,you still keep up the fervent outlook,but you know that you know that you are far from being the child of God you once were. You’ve tried sincerely to get out of this cold low land,you want to touch your Father again and feel His embrace again,read your Bible and pray as before but you just can’t. It’s so difficult, every time you think you are rising, you slip again.You’ve laboured hard enough to live this Christian life and you see others thrive in it but no,you just find yourself on the cold side.So you just give up and trod along in the congregation,held in your backslided state. Trapped!

Could it be fear? You have so many ideas  and things you can and wish to do but you’re just too afraid to take up that venture. Fear keeps you from moving forward and no matter how hard you try, you just can’t help being afraid of failure or rejection. So there you are, in your shell of mediocrity too scared to make a move.Trapped!

You! Young and agile,full of life,hopes and potentials, hidden capacities, untapped abilities, your glorious life is just ahead of you, but an habit,lifestyle or mentality has got you trapped and impotent now. Your daily fightings within and without has only got you sunk the more.

Your story in a nutshell.

I’m glad to let you know this dear; this doesn’t have to be you. Jesus was  imprisoned so you don’t have to be,held bound so you could be free, and he announced loudly on the cross that day,loud enough for all addictions,negative lifestyles and traps to hear: IT IS FINISHED. It really is. Put your hand in his today and step out of that cell of yours,to the life he has called you to live. STEP OUT.

It is for freedom that Christ has set us free.Stand firm,then and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery. Galatians 5:1

There’s freedom in surrender. Stop struggling and come back to Him. Talk to Him in all sincerity exactly how you feel,and do it now. No cover ups,no defense.He hears you dear,he so hears you.Gather the little faith you have left, though it be small as a mustard seed, and believe he can and will save you.

Surely he will save you from the fowler’s snare… Psalm 91:3

Don’t let the enemy cheat you,making you pay for what has already been paid for. You dear,yes you! has to take that step and take it today.

I pray this day,that you find the grace to follow the  stream of heavens light in that dark cell of your insecurities and return to your Maker,in Jesus’ name.Amen!

You are soo dearly loved 😍!

If you feel the need to talk,you could contact    ….many advisers make victory sure (Proverbs11:14).

Song recommendation: Unstoppable love by Jesus Culture.

Book recommendation: the Bible.

Restoration, freedom and healing.

Yours in Christ,                                                              Prudence.



Hello there!

First,you’d permit my grammar. There’s actually no word like ‘familyness’😊…just coined for this message I’m trying to pass across.Anyways, you’ll get to understand what it means as you read through.

     What I want to do is to call our attention to the fact that we need to conciously show love to our family this Christmas season and always. Yes,I know this sounds weird,like offcourse I love my family! Lol, I know you do but how often do you show it?

  1John 3:18 Dear children, let us not love with words or tongue but with actions and in truth.

Many times when we read the Scriptures that talk about love ,our consideration only goes to other people outside our families,like church members,friends,colleagues, classmates,unbelievers and so on(you might even think it selfish to show so much concern for family).Rarely do we consider that our family members are involved in this also.Well,they are! We love our family members, yes we do. There is this natural, obligated love,and love that we don’t have an option to that we have for family,and I bless God for that. My point is that we don’t show it,maybe on their birthdays, once in a while  it shows but we are mostly nonchalant about consciously showing love to our family members.

      So ladies and gentlemen, I think it’s time to bend inward a little and shower all that love you show to outsiders on your family, starting this Christmas (that’s why I love Christmas, it’s usually family time). Are you wondering how you are to show love to your family other than your normal way of relating with them? Here are some tips you could find useful:

  1. SAY IT; tell your family members with your mouth how much you love them. I know many people will find this weird, but if you can say it to someone outside, you can for the group of people that love you unconditionally.Just try it.
  2. BUY THEM GIFTS;this should be a normal thing at Christmas, but that tradition is gradually fading away.Doesn’t have to be expensive, just let it be from your heart ,okay?
  3.  GIVE THEM YOUR ATTENTION; starting this Christmas as you go home, try to pay attention to your family and give them your time.Don’t lock yourself in your room with your phone or just be concerned about the food. Be with them in the sitting room,dining,kitchen, outside,etc. Let your family feel you this Christmas.
  5. Help around the house,mum’s in the kitchen, help.Dad’s fixing the Christmas tree,help.Let them send you and you go without complaining for once.Stay happy and smiling to keep the Christmas mood up.
  6. DO anything else that says “I LOVE YOU GUYS AND I APPRECIATE YOUR LOVE FOR ME”

Now I’m aware this may not work for all families, regarding that different families are unique. Love may be lacking in your home,but here’s an opportunity for you to work with God to help you establish His love in your midst and bind y’all together. Should it be you are far away from home? Call them,send text messages ,just let them know your heart’s with them. Whatever the challenge is, I know the love of Jesus that we are celebrating this season can reach your home through you.

Now don’t neglect people that are not your family members. Still give gifts to the needy,visit people, let the love from within flow out also.C’mon this is Christmas y’all, the love in this season is enough to go round everyone, just make sure your family gets its share ,okay? You’ll be happy you did.

Let me start the love sharing ; I LOVE YOU so much.Thank you for staying with me this year and reading ,commenting ,liking and your views meant a lot to me.For your gift, you could link up with me through my Facebook or IG account.😊😊

May you have a Christ centered Christmas, and may His love be shared abroad in your heart,home and around you.Amen

Wishing you a very Merry Christmas and a Happy new year! Hope to see you here next year!!😘😘.

Yours in Christ,                                                                                               Prudence.